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Rules By The Door of our Polyamorous Playroom

Rules By The Door of our Polyamorous Playroom

All games have rules. These are ours. CONSENT   Our values are based on consent and communication. We do everything from sweet buddy sex and massage to master/slave BDSM and not everybody is into the same things. Bottoms decide if they want condoms. No chemical...

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In The Playroom 2016-2022

In The Playroom 2016-2022

by Vincent Downing Part II In The Playroom The Playroom is first a place for happiness pleasure and play.  A Playroom is where we can get in touch with all levels of ourselves all the way back to childhood before they conditioned us to believe touch was shameful. I’ve...

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Basic Skills

Basic Skills

by Vincent Downing What are the basic skills we would suggest?   It has taken many years to arrive at this list. This is because it took a long time to reduce it. These skills will serve you well if you become part of our little band or not. Accomplishing even...

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Meeting New Men

Meeting New Men

by Vincent Downing Meeting new men   Who walks through the door? I meet new men on Grindr and Recon (a gay men's kink/fetish site). Our gatherings are not events you can buy tickets to. I vet new men before they ever meet any of the guys in our polycule. The...

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Who We Are 2016-2022

Who We Are 2016-2022

by Vincent Downing Between 2016 and 2022 the group of sex buddies, friends and family numbered between 6 and 30(ish). As of August 2022 we are approximately 20 men five of whom have been part of the group for at least two years.  Aside from group sex and massage, we...

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Ongoing Interest

Vincent Stands Up For Straight Men (Wait. What?)

Vincent Stands Up For Straight Men (Wait. What?)

I wrote this in response to an essay by Pete Williams https://medium.com/the-authentic-eclectic/men-need-more-competition-not-less-5644b92cdbfb I summarize most of the points in his essay that I comment on but I urge you to read the above. For context: I have for the...

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Letter to an Incel

Letter to an Incel

This is an essay i wrote after following a thoughtful fellow (on the Medium platform) who called himself an incel. On the one hand I’m so far removed from all this that I have to admit I don’t even know what this red pill movement is. And I find incels hilarious. We...

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Polyamory Resources

Polyamory Resources

Polyamory Education Project Resources List The folks at multiamory.com multiamory.com Their multiamory podcast https://www.multiamory.com/start-here I’ve listened to dozens of the episodes. Not much from the queer male perspective so far. But the skills and resources...

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Sex Is Not Like Pizza

Sex Is Not Like Pizza

by PupTrebleNYC "Sex is like pizza. Even if it's done bad, it's still good." -Sharon Stone (and others)   There's the saying that sex is like pizza. Even when it's OK, it still fulfills that urge. But imagine if your first few experiences with it, there was pain or...

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From Meat to Carrion: Which Are You?

From Meat to Carrion: Which Are You?

From Meat to Carrion: Which Are You? Observations about Ageing As A Queer Man Published in 2007 in Out In The Mountains by Vincent Downing For my 29th birthday, I got violently ill 11 days beforehand. I was diagnosed with a “viral arthritis” and spent about two weeks...

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How My Mythology Works For Me

How My Mythology Works For Me

How My Mythology Works For Me by Vincent Downing Email to A Member of The Ethics Lab 9/21/15 I have a good mythology. I think that's very important. My mythology is based on fact, naturally. Everybody thinks that though. As to what it is its pretty simple. I believe...

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36 Questions that Lead To Love According To The Internet

36 Questions that Lead To Love According To The Internet

36 Questions That Lead To Love So I found this list on the internet so we can be confident that its true. The claim is that if you meet someone who could be a romantic partner or a friend and you spend some time together discussing these questions you’ll fall in love....

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